It’s that time of year again. Valentines Day. The shops are full of love, heart shaped chocs and items, cards for your loved one, your husband, your wife. It is a day all about love. If you don’t have another person you can celebrate it with, then why not celebrate yourself. The old adage, you can’t love another until you truly love yourself, is true. So rather than reaching for the bottle of wine and singing Bridget Jones Style into it, let’s see what you can do instead to show yourself love this Valentines Day.
- Wish yourself a Happy Valentines Day
- Buy yourself a card
- Buy yourself chocolates
- Treat yourself to a fabulous homemade meal
- Have a bath, but not just any bath, add oils, petals, crystals, make it a goddess bath
- Do yoga
- Find a special crystal, hold it and carry it with you for the day. I would recommend Rose Quartz, for encouraging self love.
- Do what you want to do and what you feel you want to do
- Honour yourself and tell yourself in the mirror “I Love Me”
If you aren’t used to showing yourself love, there isn’t any better day to start than Valentines Day. How do you show yourself love?
I visited the Zentist in York yesterday to see if they would stock my book, A Gentle Hug for the Soul. As I was in there I was invited to hold some of the more rarer crystals they have in stock. Now I must have over 200 crystals in my home alone, so I thought they wouldn’t have many I didn’t have.
A piece of moldavite was first placed in my hand. It felt very tingly. A herkimer diamond was placed in the other. Sadly I have had 2 of these and both have disappeared 🙁 I was browsing their shelves when something caught my eye. As with most crystals they tend to pick you than you picking them. It was purple on the top and red on the bottom. I thought it was a cross between amethyst and red jasper. There are tiny flecks of black, gold and silver in it too. I held it and decided I needed to take it home with me to try as I had never heard of it before. It was auralite 23.
This crystal was first found in Canada in 2007. When scientists examined it they found it consisted of 23 different minerals. These are
Now I read the small description card that came with it and held it in my left hand. I was writing in my journal before bed and after a few minutes I realised that there was a very loud ringing in my ears. I can imagine thats what tinnitus is a bit like. If I have had loud ringing before it has been after watching some TV or listening to music too loudly. Anyway I was very aware that the loud ringing was continuing so I put down my book and closed my eyes. I have heard voices before in my left ear quite clearly. I’ve been told ‘let it go’ and ‘you will be on stage’ This sounded like a radio being tuned in. Eventually I realised that a word was being said and after a few more minutes I realised it was Angels. I lay down and fell asleep holding the crystal. Apparently it is meant to help you connect to higher dimensions and clear all your chakras.
It is known as a master healer, can help to eliminate bad luck, and can help to inspire you. Said to work on cell regeneration and muscle aches, what is not to love about this crystal? The only downside? If you aren’t a particularly grounded person you would need to carry a grounding stone too as it can take you up into the clouds 🙂
If you have used auralite 23 I’d love to hear your experiences!
Last year when I was writing my book I did some channelled writing. It was the first time I had done this and I wasn’t sure how or what to do. Some people suggest pretending to write or writing swirly lines before you start and words start to become visible and go with the flow. I didn’t intend to do automatic or channelled writing. I was stuck on a section of my book. I took myself outside into the garden. I took 3 deep breaths and asked for some help with my book. When I felt ready I opened my eyes and started writing. The words that I wrote were very general and weren’t necessarily words I would write. Does that make sense?
I have noticed this month that words are coming more freely and easily. Yesterday I was cooking dinner in the kitchen for the kids and I felt annoyed so this time I didn’t even meditate. I just wrote! And I felt as if again this is generic enough that I can share it here.
Why am I feeling frustrated?
Because I didn’t feel like going out today
I don’t feel there’s space in the house
I didn’t sleep well last night
I haven’t eaten enough fruit
I haven’t drunk enough water
I wanted an afternoon nap
My boiler is broken
I need to look after me
Be kind to me
Accept the things I can’t control
Be Happy Inside
Sometimes we can concentrate so much on the negatives and forget about the positives and I feel this poem shows how eventually you run out of the crap and reasons you’re feeling crap and eventually focus on what you need. I hope this means something to you as I strongly feel it wasn’t a message just for me, so if it resonates let me know!
Love and light
January 1st is typically the day we set our new years resolutions. We generally state what we are going to do this year. I’m going to lose weight. I’m going to stop smoking. I’m going to stop eating chocolate. The second Friday in January is officially known as ‘Quitters Day’ This is when most of us give up our New Years resolutions and decide we just can’t stick to our resolution. Let me give you my take firstly on why this happens. Setting a goal/resolution for a whole 12 months is huge and for some it can be overwhelming. It can take up to 21 days to break a habit. Rather than saying I am going to lose weight try I will increase my physical activity. That’s surely easier isn’t it?
A couple of years ago I set myself a different goal each month. January I gave up bread, which was tough, but since it was just for 4 weeks that was doable. February I gave up chocolate, tougher, but again manageable for 4 weeks. In 2018 I started working with the Moon. Now bear with me if you’re new to this. Every 4 weeks we have a new moon. Every 4 weeks we have a full moon. On a full moon we release and forgive. On a New Moon we set our intentions/wishes/goals. In 2019 not only can we set New Years Resolutions on January 1st, but we get a second chance to help us stick to it.
How would you do it? Lets stick with the losing weight resolution. That’s for the year.
On Jan 6th you want to think a bit more about how you are going to lose weight. Who can help you to lose weight? What is driving you to do it? You might then write your intentions as follows:
- I am going to start walking my kids to school ( if you live within walking distance)
- I am going to make a homemade curry instead of buying a takeway curry
- I will find a YouTube video I love that is only 15 minutes a day of exercise I love
And so on. Make 10 wishes that are going to help you achieve your goals in 2019. Then underneath your wish write an action that will help you achieve it. Using example 2 with the curry. I am going to make sure I have ingredients in to cook a homemade curry. Write 10 wishes that you would like to happen in January. Then read through them and see how it feels to achieve it. That’s it. So this year we get 2 chances to make our wishes come true! Let’s do this! Let me know how you get on.
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First impressions count. How we dress. How we style our hair. How we look. They all tell someone a story. I had the pleasure of meeting Brad Burton today at 4N York. He stood up and told us a bit of his background, who inspires him and how he started his business. Something that resonated with me though was about how people perceive him. When people look at him they automatically think he is a drug dealer, a security guard or a bouncer. Is it because of his size? His tattoos? His bald head? Probably. In case you don’t know who he is he created the 4Networking group. He has written 4 books, is a motivational speaker and is in the top 100 most influential entrepeneurs.
Sometimes we don’t realise that we are making an assumption about people based on how they look. I was driving through York the other day and spotted a bright pink mini with fluffy hanging dice and loads of teddy bears in the window. I assumed it would be a lady driver. However a chap who was around 5ft 10 was driving the car. My second thought was ‘it must be his girlfriends’. I don’t often judge people on their appearance or what they look like and it shocked me that I had assumed the driver would be a certain age or sex.
Twice this last week I have been told I don’t look like a witch. I don’t profess to being a witch or being pagan. I tell people about the spiritual work I do and I work with the moon. Maybe that’s why they think I’m a witch? I wear jumpers and skirts, jeans, dresses and leggings. Typical everyday attire.
So I just wonder do you judge people based on what they look like? Or have you been judged because you look a certain way? Drop me a note in the com
Have you heard the term ‘Mercury in Retrograde’? It’s probably only about six months ago when I first saw the term being bounced around on Twitter. What does that mean I thought? I started looking into it but not in a massive way. My favourite ‘moon’ lady author and astrologer, Yasmin Boland has just published a book with a fellow astrologer all about Mercury in Retrograde. https://www.moonology.com/ In the interests of my blog readers I bought it and now understand a bit better what it means. Before I share this with you, I just want to say how interesting I found it as it makes complete sense to how my last week has been!
Last Friday morning both my children were at school. Great I thought, I can get on and finish my crystal online course I have been working on. However, once I had dropped the kids off I thought, I don’t really feel like going home and working by myself. Instead I decided to go to a local wellbeing networking event because I felt as if I wanted to be around people. I was in Newcastle on Saturday at my nieces birthday party, then yesterday I gave myself the day off to go and ‘birth’ a drum. More on this in another blog! Today I felt like decluttering my wardrobe, which I have done, got a bag for charity together, put all the washing away then sat down to read Yasmins book.
Mercury goes Retrograde
On Friday, Mercury went into retrograde into Sagittarius. I didn’t know that until today. Mercury going into retrograde happens four times a year. Basically, Mercury is going backwards. It affects everyone but if it is in your birth sign it can affect you more strongly than others. When Mercury goes retrograde there are certain things to be aware of. This is a great time to deal with unfinished business. So finish those projects you have started. Note to self, finish my online crystal course! It’s not a great time to start new projects as these may need to be redone once the retrograde has finished. Communication is massive during this time. Don’t sign any documents without reading the small print. Don’t make any HUGE decisions. Back up your laptop and mobile phone. Check your car for oil and water before you travel, and petrol too! Expect delays when travelling so always leave extra time for journeys. Get together with old friends and don’t go on a first date.
Mercury in Sagittarius
Specifically for Mercury in Sagittarius it encourages you to enjoy the lighter side of life by learning to play again! I was in the soft play with my kids on Saturday going down slides and enjoying myself rather than sitting on the side with a cuppa. Allow the fire within you to come out. Think about how you can develop your creative side and find your true passion.
I’ve found this so interesting learning over 2018 how we tick and how the planets impact on our thoughts, our feelings and our work. I’d love to know if you use planetary influences in your lives, personal or work. Just comment below.
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When you tell people that you are spiritual they tend to have images of you sat on the floor somewhere saying ‘Om’ Or being a chilled out ‘hippy’ I did describe myself once as a modern day hippy 🙂 Being spiritual today doesn’t necessarily mean that all you do all day is sit and meditate and do Yoga.
It means finding a place of peace. In your mind. Being happy with who you are at this moment in time. It can take work and it can take practice. It is about being thankful for the life you have. Being mindful and accepting what comes our way. Be it good or not so good. Every challenge is an opportunity to grow and expand.
Being spiritual is about kindness to others and accepting others for who they are. If they don’t float your boat you don’t have to be BFF’s just recognise them for who they are and that’s what they are about. When we speak to others do it from a place of love, not hate. That’s not kind and frankly there’s no need. The best thing we can do when others say something mean to us or aren’t particularly pleasant is to tell them in an honest and loving way that what they said hurt us. Then forgive them. Easier said than done but you don’t need to hold onto their stuff.It’s not serving you.
Being spiritual in today’s society is more about embracing who we are and loving ourselves.
When I first learnt Reiki level 1 back in 2008 I felt like a fraud. I couldn’t really feel anything. I placed my hands over peoples bodies and just set the intention that I was channeling Reiki. And I trusted that it was working.
The first time I felt something I got a shock. I was at a pamper evening doing Reiki taster sessions for a charity. I had one space left at 830pm. One of the volunteers came over and asked if she could have the space. Yes I replied. I started giving her Reiki and closed my eyes. I feel energy better when my eyes are closed.
All of a sudden I felt a chill. I knew someone was next to me. In my head I asked who it was and I got Grandma. I felt as if she was peering over my shoulder saying ‘Why are you doing that?’ ‘What are you doing that for?’ I had to ask her to back away a little bit. When the treatment ended I was in two minds as to whether I should tell this lady.
I said, I think your Grandma was with us. I felt as though she was being nosy asking what I was doing it and why. The ladies eyes filled up. She told me ‘It was the first anniversary of my Grandmas death today and I’ve just been to the graveyard to put flowers on her grave. It sounds like her. ‘I got another shiver as I had been right!
Over the last 10 years my Reiki has developed and I often feel spirits, angels or spirit guides around the person I am giving Reiki to. Sometimes my helpers put an image or a word in my head so I often know if someone is in pain, why that pain is there or what they are suffering from.
When I first started learning Reiki I never for one moment thought that I would be able to help people the way I do. If you are just starting out on your Reiki journey, the biggest lessons to remember are Trust and Intentions. Hand positions are important but trusting yourself and setting the intention that you are a channel for Reiki are more important.
Full Moon Rituals
I’ve been doing Full Moon releasing rituals since January 2018 when I read Yasmin Bolands book, Moonology. Sitting there writing my list of everyone I want to forgive and what I want to let go of. Then burning my list. And letting go. In my head I thought yep I have let that go. However sometimes right before the new moon I have started to feel what I can only describe as wobbly. I am ultra-sensitive. I don’t feel like being sociable. I want to be by myself. I cry easily.
Today I had a lightbulb moment. I wanted to go to a Mind, Body and Soul Fair. But since Friday I have been feeling wobbly. Was it because I’m ovulating? Was it because I’m still waiting for my divorce to come through? It didn’t feel like a stress thing. I just felt fragile and wanted to cry. I went to the library with my friends and kids. One of my very close friends spoke to me about a couple of issues that she was worried about on my behalf. I broke down in the library. She apologised for making me cry. It was all ready to come out anyway. The timing just sucked. And it was raining outside so I couldn’t wear my sunglasses to disguise my red eyes. I went shopping afterwards in the hope it might make me feel better. It did a bit. I went into Mango and bought a beautiful top.
For the rest of the day I felt wobbly but I got through it. What was going on? The next day I felt OK. On Sunday I dropped my kids off at their dads, went home, crept into bed and cried and cried. I cried for about an hour. What’s wrong with me? I then had my eureka moment. I was releasing. I had written down my releasing stuff at the full moon, BUT it was only now I was actually physically and emotionally releasing. After my cry I felt fresh and renewed. I realised that the work I am doing on myself does actually mean I have to release my emotions and allow myself to cry.
Twice this week I have heard the word Surrender. And that’s what I am currently doing, surrendering and allowing the process to work. Through releasing we are making space for greater things to come in.
If you would like to learn more about working with the moon I strongly recommend buying a copy of Yasmin Bolands book Moonology. https://amzn.to/2DA51Jx