February is normally associated with Amethyst, as it is the Aquarians birth stone. For me February is the month of love. There are 2 crystals I associate with love. One is Rose Quartz and the other Malachite. For today I am going to focus on Rose Quartz. If you have never owned a crystal before this is the first one I would always recommend to people.
Back in 2008 I was on a second date and we had gone to a Psychic Evening. ( As you do!) There was a couple there selling crystals. I went up first and picked a piece of rough rose quartz crystal, I had no idea what it was but it looked pretty. Half an hour later my date showed me his rose quartz buddha that he had chosen. He hadn’t seen my crystal. I tok it home and slept with it on my bedside table. Sometimes I held it as I went to sleep. It sounds odd, but it felt like someone was giving me a gentle hug when I held it. At fairs I always describe Rose Quartz as a gentle hug for the soul.
It is effective in attracting love, romance and intimacy. So if you’re looking for love this February or feel as if you could do with a bit of self love, find a piece of rose quartz and keep it near you. Hold it or carry it in your pocket. Let me know how you get on!
How many of you have a To Do list?
Being self employed and a mum I regularly have To Do lists. Last week I really struggled to focus. I had loads to do and my to do list was getting longer, but all I wanted to do was to sit down and catch up on Made In Chelsea, of which I missed the whole season last year as I was busy working. So instead of cracking on I allowed myself time to watch it. I allowed myself time to finish Light is The New Black, which is an amazing book by Rebecca Campbell and I highly recommend. I allowed myself to watch a movie, Bad Santa, bit late but never mind. I allowed myself time to meditate. I allowed myself time to have a personal training session, which I had won. I allowed myself time to enjoy being with the kids, playing in the park and baking cakes.
Allowing ourselves to step away from our To Do list and just be is a really important stage in our lives. We need to have moments of nothingness, where our brain just switches off, away from our businesses, our family, our homes. Sometimes out of this nothingness can come great ideas, an initiative, some spark. When we are ready we can then go back to our to do lists and crack on with the list, being even more productive than we were before. Constantly immersing ourselves in social media or work brings no benefits.
So Just for Today do nothing. Relax. Put away your to do list. Allow yourself to be… wherever and whatever that looks like.
Let me know what your favourite ways of doing nothing are!
I used to love nothing more than a bubble bath. However I hated the prune like feel I would get on my fingers after getting out of the bath.
I discovered Himalayan Salt baths a couple of years ago. I’d honestly never even heard of salt baths until I started buying the products myself.
There are several reasons why Himalayan Salt baths are good for you
So how do you have a salt bath?
Make sure your bath is roughly 37 degrees celsius. I have experimented greatly with the amount of salt needed for a bath and have found that approx 1/3 cup is plenty for your average size bath. I chucked 1kg of salt in once, but it made no difference. Stay in the bath for 20-30 mins and pat yourself dry.
If you want to add some essential oils in then feel free. I have been using my friend Rubys Devaiya Oils. She makes blends called Stresses Away, Aches Away and Dreams Away which are just fabulous. Her oils can be found here:
Bags of plain Himalayan Salt and Himalayan Salt mixed with Devaiya Oils are available via my store. All my salts come in compostable bags so good for you and the environment.
Let me know what you think of Himalayan Salt Baths 🙂
If you are on any medication or suffer from diabetes/low/high blood pressure or circulation problems please consult a doctor prior to taking a salt bath
January is a month for making New Year resolutions or abstaining from certain foods, drinks or behaviours. This is why I have chosen Amethyst as crystal of the month. Purple in colour and the birthstone for Aquarians, this stone is an extremely useful one to have in your collection. It is personally one of my favourite go-to stones. So how can Amethyst help you in January? Well, if you have an addiction of any kind, Amethyst can help support you in kicking this, be it chocolate, alcohol or bad food. The Greeks used to drink out of Amethyst goblets, believing that if they drank wine out of them they wouldn’t get drunk. If you’re doing Dry January or Vegan January and trying to give something up, pop a piece of this in your pocket for the month.
Amethyst can also help enhance physical vitality and strengthen the immune system, very important after all the winter bugs! Amethyst is also said to help relieve insomnia so pop a piece under your pillow at night. Also if you suffer headaches it is said that placing a piece on your third eye chakra will help relieve this.
Let me know if you have used amethyst for any of the above and feel free to share your pictures of amethyst in the comments below. Thank you for reading and look out for crystal of the month in February..
I generally love Christmas. getting together with those that we love and celebrating, its normally a fabulous time of the year. However it can also be a very stressful time of year too. You can use crystals at this time of year to help you feel calmer, more energised and less stressed.
Let me know if you use any of these crystals over the Christmas period and how you get on.
I have been very lucky in my life so far that death hasn’t been a major thing. My grandma was the first person close to me to pass away, she was in her eighties and died on Christmas day 1999.I was 19. I was upset but it was expected. I flew to Mexico the day after her funeral to teach English. I was supposed to be there for 6 months. My grandad then died in May 2000. I flew back home as I felt it was important to be with my family and to have closure at his funeral. My other grandad passed away whilst I was at University in Manchester. My dad called me just as I had sat down for a lecture. I left the lecture and cried all of the way home on the bus.
I have been interested in the afterlife/spirits since I was a little girl. When I was about twelve I read a book about a famous medium, Doris Stokes, and since then I have always been curious. When I was 25 I went to see my first medium. She knew things about my family that she couldn’t have possibly done. This was pre-Facebook where really no one knew you! I was fascinated. My grandad came through bringing memories of my dad when he was a little boy. I started attending monthly psychic events watching how different mediums work, whether the messages they gave were accurate. I needed more proof and evidence that there was something after we die. After attending for several years and receiving various messages myself I was confident that we don’t just turn to dust and that’s it. Your soul moves on. Where it goes I have no idea. But what I have learnt is that your loved ones are with you and watching you at times when you most need them. When you are at your darkest hour and feel there is no one there. There is. It’s just that physically they can’t reach out and gave you a hug. They are with you, trying to help you.
I met Lisa back in 2005. She was living with my husband at the time. They worked together and she had confided in him that she was in an abusive relationship, wanted to leave and needed somewhere to live, but she didn’t have much money. My husband had a spare room and offered it to her. They became friends. She worked hard to get some money together to afford her own place. At one point she was working 6 days a week, combining her full time job and one day a week on reception at a local hotel.
We became really good friends. My husband helped her to find her own house. We helped her move. Then when it was our turn to move she came to help us. We would see her at least once a week. She was single and in her forties. We set her up on match.com and she met a guy called Dave. Lisa had had breast cancer around 10 years ago and recovered from it. Shortly before she met Dave she had learnt that the cancer had come back. She was obviously upset. They dated and he proposed to her after about a year. Lisa had never been married before and was so excited. She had been having chemo and had decided to shave her hair off. She got a wig sorted and was going to wear it to the wedding. There was only 6 of us, plus my 18mo, at a hotel in Brixham. The day was lovely, she was so happy. She had been worried that she wouldn’t actually make her wedding.
In 2016 she found out that the cancer was not only in her breast, but it had spread to her liver and lungs. She had several rounds of chemo but the tumours kept growing. The very last time I spoke to her she told me that she loved me. I didn’t say it back, which I regret. A week later she died, on my birthday. I’m sure it was so that I never forget her.
For various reasons I couldn’t go to her funeral. Her husband said I could watch the funeral online if we wanted. I never even knew you could do this! My parents came down to look after the kids. I sat in the bedroom watching the funeral on my laptop. It was surreal. I sobbed and sobbed whilst they played her favourite music and read things out which described her to a tee.
Dealing with her death hit me really hard. I couldn’t stop crying and sunk into a real low. I’d never felt pain so raw. The children would ask me why I was crying and I explained to them that Aunty Lisa had passed away and we wouldn’t see her again. The children helped as it was a distraction through the day. But in those moments when they were asleep it would wash over me again and the realisation that I wouldn’t see her again/ talk to her would hit. I allowed myself to feel the emotions even though it was so painful. If I didn’t it would have made me ill.
Bottling up emotions can cause such problems physically and emotionally later. I tried to express how I felt and when I couldn’t verbalise it to others, I wrote it down, I needed an outlet. I love crystals and bought myself apache tears which I would carry with me every day. It is a stone that is said to help overcome grief It sounds odd but it did bring me great comfort. I realised that I really needed to take care of myself during this stage in my life. I gave myself Reiki nearly every day. I tried to meditate, eat as well as I could and really be kind to myself. My belief that she was in a better place also helped. A medium friend of mine contacted to say she had heard from Lisa and she was OK.
At my lowest I went to the doctor. Talking to the doctor she said you’re not depressed, but if you need to talk to someone you can refer yourself to a counsellor. I called them and got a telephone consultation. I was entitled to three free sessions. For whatever reason I chose not to go through with it. My friends really helped me through this. I was as honest as I could be with them. They listened and didn’t judge. Day by day it got easier. But it really made me think about my own life. Was I getting what I wanted out of it? What was I doing? Was I living it to the full?
I have made some life changes since then. One of which was to re-establish my company NRG Healing. I have thrown everything into it. You could say it has been a distraction. Grief is overwhelming and so, so, so hard to go through. Ultimately there are two certainties in life, birth and death. We have to roll with the grief, feel it and experience it, for us to grow stronger and to move forward in our lives with whatever it is we need to. How we deal with it is our personal journey. I feel lucky to have had such good friends to support me through this, and to have had some tools to help me, namely Reiki, crystals and an awareness of an afterlife. However there is also support out there in the way of counselling, be honest about your feelings and tell the doctor, your friends and family how you are.
It is one year today that Lisa passed away. I still miss her and always will, but I also feel very lucky that she was a part of my life for those years and the memories will always be there.
On Saturday I had no plans for the Sunday. Whilst browsing FB I noticed that a lady was giving away a ticket for an all day event in Leeds. I had no idea what it was but asked if I could have the ticket. All it said was that it was to see Richard McCann at iCan Live! I got a phone call from my friend about an hour later. She was ringing me to say that she was going to see him for the fourth time and taking her mum. I still had no idea who he was so she filled me in a bit and just told me that he was amazing and very inspirational.I didn’t even get a chance to google him before Sunday as I had my parents here. I drove to Leeds on the Sunday morning with no expectations at all except to have a great time. I arrived just in time.
I don’t want to spoil his story but he had a shitty start to his life basically. He looked for the opportunities in everything that he did to turn his life around. He is an inspirational speaker who has travelled the world. He has a beautiful family and is encouraging his kids to be empowered, which I loved. He included some videos of them saying things like I Love Me, which was super cute, as his daughter must have been about two. We need to encourage our children and ourselves to say this. It’s really hard at first but the more we tell ourselves and our children tell themselves the more we attract love into our lives.
Its about saying yes and grabbing those opportunities that present themselves to us on a daily basis. The only thing stopping us from doing it is fear, and really what do we have to be afraid of? That someone will laugh at us? That we make a fool of ourselves? Who cares, at least we have tried and given it a go.
One lady bravely stood up in front of 400 people and sang a song about pigeons! Some people who were afraid to talk in public were getting up on the stage to speak.
He talked about positivity and how important it is. When we choose to be negative we operate at a lower vibration and that attracts people to us who may not be good for us, it can bring darkness into your life. When we choose positivity it can only bring better things into our life.
We did some goal setting with a chap called Craig Wilkinson. Again his story isn’t all rainbows and sparkly lights but he’s doing a great job helping other people to set and achieve their goals in specific parts of their lives.
He talked about visualisation and the importance of vision boards, the Law of Attraction. All of these tools are within our reach.
If you get the chance to see either Richard McCann or Craig Wilkinson I would highly recommend it. It was an amazing and inspiring way to spend my Sunday and I am extremely grateful to the lady who gifted me a ticket 🙂